The World is Still Rich with Opportunity

A few years ago, I came across the quote below made by a reviewer of Richard Carlson’s book, Don’t Worry Make Money, that came out in 1997.         I don’t know the reviewer’s name and never found the review referenced again. But, this was and is an inspiration to me and I have always referred back to it over the years. I have a copy of it on my cubicle at work and on my bathroom wall so I can read it when necessary.

“Do you think that opportunity only knocks once? If you do, Richard Carlson, author of Don’t Worry Make Money, says you’re buying into one of the most perpetuated ‘myths’ in our culture.

Carlson argues that this kind of thing inspires people to do things they really do not want to do. That it is based on a ‘never enough to go around’ mindset that just isn’t true. Thinking that it’s now or never, often encourages bad decision making, for instance, he says. You might take a job you do not want or move to an area that doesn’t really sit well with you.

The world we live in is rich with ever-increasing opportunity, he says. The world is in need of creative people and everyone has their own gifts and talents to offer. You just have to figure out how it’s going to work for you. There are thousands of jobs out there that you can do. There are thousands of business opportunities.

But, Carlson says, first you have to overcome your fear: The fear of not having enough. The fear that you only get one shot and then it’s over.

It’s a big lie. Your life will be filled with great opportunities over and over again.”

On the other hand, you may be a person who has been blessed by some wonderful opportunities. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t more coming your way!

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

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Absolute Power Corrupts Absolutely (A Quote)

This was a best-known quote of the 19th century British politician, historian, and moralist Lord John Emerich Edward Dalberg Acton 1834-1902, in a letter to Bishop Mandell Creighton in 1887.  But, he was borrowing from other speakers or writers who earlier said it differently.

A king was the one with the most wealth and power.  This person thinks that all in their “kingdom” are pawns to do with as they please and they’ve done it so long that they believe their own hype.    They rule by threats, coercion, bargaining, murder, and compensating.   “…this option to impose on without any regard whatsoever for due process, becomes, in the hands of most, a license to harm, if not destroy the careers and lives of others.  Leadership incompetence” 1

“Absolute monarchies are those in which all power is given to, or as is more often the case, taken by, the monarch.   Examples were Roman emperors who thought they were gods and Napoleon Bonaparte who declared himself emperor”.2

There’s no room for absolute power in a democracy of checks and balances.  As seen recently, if you act only to build your own wealth, it will eventually come back to bite you in the behind.

As in the movie, The Man Who Would Be King (1975), based on Rudyard Kipling’s 1888 original story, two con men (Carnehan and Dravot, “British adventurers in British India”) sought their fortune in a foreign country, Afghanistan.   They were fellow freemasons to the journalist that they convinced to help them with their research.  They started out by helping people who were warring against each other and came up with satisfactory solutions.   But, then they went a few steps too far by becoming kings themselves over people whose customs they didn’t understand.

Since the holy men who lorded over all the local tribes declared Dravot (Sean Connery) a descendant of  a God because of the freemason symbol he wore around his neck, he basically was thought to be a God for a few months until he told the holy men that he was going to marry a local girl and father children.  The local girl was instructed to bite Dravot on the face causing him to bleed.  Seeing Dravot bleed, the holy men knew he was not a God, and executed him.

Two years later Carnehan (Michael Caine) returned to the journalist.   They had paid for their deceit.  Carnehan had been tortured, crippled, and released.   But, he showed the journalist (Christopher Plummer) the skeletal head of Dravot that was still wearing his golden crown.

Both actors did a wonderful job, especially Sean Connery’s character explaining that he felt this Godship was his calling, and he intended to mend his ways.   Had they left with the spoils before they were outed, as Carnehan wanted to do, they would have been wealthy men.   But, Dravot believed his own hype.

And, now we have another example of absolute power in the case of the Saudi Arabian American journalist executed in the Saudi consulate in Turkey recently.    He was the  same journalist who accompanied President 45’s business dealers to Saudi Arabia on past trips.  And, don’t forget the arms deal President 45 already made with the Saudis.

Sources:

  1. Dr. Robert Aziz, Huffington Post, https://m.huffpost.com
  2. Absolute Power Corrupts Absolutely (A Quote), https://www.phrases.org.uk
  3. Wikipedia, Rudyard Kipling, The Phantom ‘Rickshaw and other Eerie Tales

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

 

Review of television show Lucifer

Lucifer is an American dark comedy in which a fallen angel, “the devil”, still retains all his vanity as an angel and develops a disdain for his job as a punisher of sinners after they die.   It is set in the police detective world of Los Angeles (the city of angels).

Los Angeles and the music are characters in the show.   Each episode begins with a scene of the city from the air.  Although I found out that the location was Vancouver in British Columbia, Canada.   The special effects are spectacular, and, this character, Lucifer, doesn’t have to show his real face very often.

The premise of the series is that Lucifer Morningstar, the fallen angel of light, takes an unapproved vacation from his job in hell.   He is portrayed by the deliciously handsome Tom Ellis as a spoiled brat who is always mad at his Father, God.   (The first time I saw Tom Ellis was on an episode of Poirot in which he was portraying a police detective.)   Lucifer has no idea what is required to actually live among humans.   He exposes humans to countless dangers just by being himself.

He soon finds out that there are consequences for helping humans—consequences causing them to die and go to an unguarded hell as well as causing the human body count to soar when the sinners escape.

In the first episode, he and a female singer that he helped to super-stardom are gunned down, but of course, he doesn’t die.   He was giving her advice to get herself together at the time.  As I think we all know, not everyone can handle fame.   Lucifer meets detective Chloe and starts showing up everywhere to help her solve murders, including this first one.   Because he is an angel of light, he has a hypnotic effect on humans which he uses in his detective work.

Unlike movies where angelic hosts take a vacation, live among us, or are sent to help a priest out, as in the movie, “Death Takes a Holiday”, the tv show, “Supernatural”, tv show, “American Gods, movie “The Preacher’s Wife”, and the movie or tv show, “Hercules”, in which the gods constantly interfere with human life, Lucifer, however, indulges in his favorite things–alcohol, sex, and song.

The characters of the show are diverse and believable:

  • D.B. Woodside is Lucifer’s angel brother, Amenadiel, who unsuccessfully, per Father’s instructions, tries to convince Lucifer to go back to his job in hell.   (A hunk and a half.)
  • Lauren German is the beautiful police detective, Chloe Decker, who is manipulated into partnering with Lucifer with him as her police consultant who helps her with cases.
  • Kevin Alejandro is Chloe’s handsome husband, Dan, who is separated from his wife and tries to get back with her.  (Kevin was great in the HBO tv series “True Blood”)
  • Scarlet Estevez is Chloe and Dan’s cute little daughter who befriends Lucifer and Mazikeen.  The voice of wisdom most of the time and she likes chocolate cake.
  • Rachel Harris is beautiful Dr. Linda Martin who ends up being everybody’s therapist and in danger as well because of her job.
  • Lesley-Ann Brandt is excellent at portraying Lucifer’s beautiful demon body guard, Mazikeen, who can kick ass 24/7.
  • Aimee Garcia is Ella Lopez, the cheerful beautiful LAPD forensic scientist.
  • Tricia Helfer is Charlotte, Lucifer’s beautiful but manipulating mom and ex-wife of God.
  • Tom Welling is police lieutenant Marcus Pierce as well as a mysterious character.  (I loved him as Superman in the tv show Smallville, and what a hunk he still is.)

The creators of the show are Neil Gaiman (author of American Gods), Sam Kieth (comics artist and writer), and Mike Dringenberg (comics artist).

However, there is a disconnect after season 3, episode 23 in which Chloe sees Lucifer’s real devil face for the first time.  In the last two episodes, S03:E24 and S03:E25, her realization of his true identity is not addressed as though it didn’t happen.  The series was just digging into more of Ella, the forensic scientist’s backstory and new characters like the Angel of Death.

This was a show on Fox until its fourth season was canceled because its fanbase was too small.    And, due to those fans who complained, Netflix picked up the show for its fourth season.

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

 

 

Review of book:  Bloodsworth—the True Story of the First Death Row Inmate Exonerated by DNA Evidence, by Tim Junkin

Bloodsworth is the nonfiction account of how Kirk Bloodworth was wrongfully accused and spent 9 years in prison for the alleged heinous rape and murder of a child.    The book includes a short history of how DNA came about (“clearing the innocent as well as identifying the guilty”), the history of the Maryland Penitentiary, and a short Baltimore history beginning in 1661.  I love a book that gives the historical backstory to explain why things happened and what was going on in the country at the same time.

“In her news conference, Sandra A. O’Connor declined to say that Bloodsworth was innocent and offered no apologies.   ‘There are no other suspects at this time’, she said.  ‘Based on the evidence, our office did the right thing in prosecuting him,’ she said.   ‘I believe he is not guilty,” O’Conor added.  ‘I am not prepared to say he’s innocent.’  This public statement of hers caused some people to think he was still guilty despite the proof of his innocence.

The author says “There is a strain of hubris that affects certain people in power, people with authority.  It can be slow to develop, like a dormant infection.  If not guarded against, it can breed an unhealthy arrogance, a cocksureness that their judgments are beyond fallacy.  Such self-righteousness allows them to close their minds to new possibilities.  It can cause right-thinking people to do terrible things.  The devil has a long tail.”   In addition, it can cause these professionals to not consider any other options like the four other local men who had criminal records and creepy ways that caught their co-workers’ attentions, but not the prosecution investigators’ attentions.

Kirk’s personal story of triumph is intermingled with the above in an interesting and far from boring way.  There was no evidence to even bring him in as a suspect.   But, think of what he and other innocent men and women have gone through.   Some say, well, the cover tells you that he was proven innocent, why should I read his story?   Who knows, maybe you will need the information that he learned from his experience being locked up in the Maryland Penitentiary, being trapped with the guilty, using every bit of money your elderly parents have in trying to prove your innocence, etc.   This could have been your story.

And, what was his crime?   This former waterman, Marine, and discus-throwing champion allowed his life to spiral out of control in pursuit of the wife whom he loved.  So much so that he wasn’t prepared physically or emotionally to bring his life back on track.   He and his wife were living with a group of like-minded party animals who only lived to party until his wife grew bored with him and ran away to find some other like-minded fellow.  Bloodsworth was high and miserable about his wife when he was arrested.   What a time to be arrested when you are not thinking clearly at all and having to come down off that high in prison.

This book was selected by the Maryland Humanities One Maryland One Book campaign.   Copyright 2004 by Tim Junkin and Kirk Bloodsworth, Published by Algonquin Books of Chapel Hill

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

Review of book:  Heavy is the Rain, by Stella Adams

Ms. Adams’ book is wonderful.   You know the old saying, “When it rains—it pours”?   Well, little Billie (named after Baltimore singer Billie Holiday) has had her share of ups and downs, and most of her downs were brought on by unsavory adults as well as by an emotionally unavailable mother (not taking either her new husband or Billie’s side) and an absent father.   The story takes place between 1948 and 1966 between Baltimore and South Carolina.

I can’t leave out Grandma Gertie in South Carolina who had a special bond with her granddaughter, Billie, to the point of always knowing when Billie was in trouble in Baltimore.   Ms. Adams did her due diligence in researching Baltimore City, Maryland, locales and history for her fiction novel.   And, if you have lived in Baltimore, the locales in her book will hopefully dredge up pleasant memories for you.  It brought back many memories for me.

Her book is fast-paced and thrilling because there are mysteries going on during the novel that make for a lot of suspense.   Issues confronted are child molestation and revenge for same (the word “honeymoon” and its special meaning, age-old dilemma of who can a child tell), female child made into a numbers runner, the danger of payback, and whether love is even in Billie’s future.

Copyright 2013 Stella Adams, Plenary Publishing, Charleston.  Look for her new book, Beneficial Life, just published in 2018 by Stargo LLC.

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

 

 

 

 

Chase the right waterfalls! Please don’t stick to the rivers and the lakes that you are used to!

Hi, everyone!

A few years ago, TLC sang a beautiful song –“Waterfalls”.

“Don’t go chasing waterfalls. Please stay in the rivers and the lakes that you are used to.”    I thought the lyrics were kind of negative, because I thought of waterfalls as something positive.   But in watching the video and re-reading the lyrics, I found that the song spoke of young people who were going too far in the wrong direction–ruining their lives.   The video of three beautiful women standing in water is breath-taking.

“According to Bustle, the song we love to belt out is about H.I.V., drug dealing, and other tragedies that kill predominantly young people.”    “The Meaning Behind ‘Waterfalls’ by TLC is Pretty Dark”, https://www.flava.co.nz, 4/15/17

http://www.lyrics007.com/Tlc Lyrics/Waterfalls Lyrics.html, TLC (T-Boz/Left Eye/Chili), 1995, on the LaFace label.

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

Despacito (Slowly)

Recently, I had been hearing a song in Spanish called Despacito and I was curious to find out what it meant because I was dancing in the car every time I heard it.

The hottest lines in English for me were:

“I want to undress you in kisses slowly firmly in the walls of your labyrinth”.

“want you to show my mouth your favorite places…”

The song is a collaboration between Puerto Rican pop artist Luis Fonsi and Puerto Rican rapper Daddy Yankee.   At that time, Despacito (Slowly) “was the most-streamed song of all time”.  (Hanlon)

“The reggaton-pop song was released on January 13, 2017 and topped the charts of 40 countries.”   It was even made into a remix featuring Justin Bieber on April 17, 2017.    (Pemberton)

Sources:

Allegra T. Hanlon on July 19, 2017, Billboard.com.

Becky Pemberton, April 10, 2018, https://thesun.co.uk.

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

Eating

People who love to eat are always the best people.

Julia Child

Laughter is brightest in the place where the food is.

Irish Proverb

One of the very nicest things about life is the way we must regularly stop whatever it is we are doing and devote our attention to eating.

Luciano Pavarotti

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

Four Factors–Great Sex for a Man

On 6/15/18, Matthew Boggs on Youtube suggested four things that men would like in sex.

They were:

  1. Frequency
  2. Variety (“routine lulls the brain to sleep”, “different rooms”)
  3. Fantasy (“fulfillment of same”)
  4. Intensity

Those four things are also important to a lot of women.

Maybe the men who don’t like sex much should get together with the women or partners who don’t like sex much.   You just know there are some out there.   And, leave us others to it.

Check out Matthew on Youtube.

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

 

 

 

 

Teeth

In my 20’s

I decided to keep my remaining teeth alive

Then

Gum surgery, extreme cleaning and excavation

Die-Hard-with-a-Vengeance

Drama

Trauma

Pain

Several times a year

 

By my 30’s

I went for regular cleanings

Not so much Die Hard

Little drama

Some trauma

Some pain

Only twice a year now

 

Keep at it

While you are young.

 

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

Whipped (And Not in a Good Way) 

“To love at all is to be vulnerable.”  C. S. Lewis

Whether we are male or female, we shouldn’t have to give up everything we are to be in a relationship with anyone else.   Even if you accept the person as they are, be prepared for changes in that person and also in yourself sometime in the future.    Hair styles change, fashion changes, weight changes, knowledge changes, etc.  Discuss the intangibles before attaching yourself to another person.   Ask the “What if” questions.

Too many times on television shows or in movies, women are depicted as loud mouths.   The shows depict that the men always give in to everything the bully (wife or girlfriend) wants.    The women are always raging in the top of the house, which the Bible discourages in the book of Proverbs chapter 31.  The passage describes a woman with prospects.       I soon tire of those shows and stop watching.

Examples:

The wife/mother in the tv show “Are we there yet?”

The wife/mother in the tv show “Everyone Hates Chris”

The wife/mother in the tv show “Everyone Loves Raymond”

The wife in the tv show “The King of Queens”

Janet Jackson played a raging wife in the movie “Why Did I Get Married Too”.    In the first movie, Janet’s character had the answer to everything, but she had lost her mind by the sequel.   Mind you, I didn’t see any reason for her to be raging that counseling over the death of her son wouldn’t have helped.   Guilt can make you do strange things.

The wife in the television movie, “Men Don’t Tell”, didn’t just rage, but physically abused her husband who was a regular guy who would have not taken that kind of abuse from a man.   What she did to him was unusual.

The husband in the movie, N-Secure, married a beautiful woman and immediately tried to drastically change her appearance and where she could go.   I believe what you did to attract the person initially or what you were attracted to in another person shouldn’t be drastically changed because you are in a relationship.   The husband ended up trying to kill his wife because she wanted to escape his abusive ways.

In the movie, How to Make an American Quilt, a wife who was a former swimmer, stifled her own ambitions after marriage and pregnancies.   Marriage counseling might have done her some good.  She broke up her own family because of her insecurities.

I don’t believe there is such a thing as a 50/50 relationship.   Who determines what goes into the formula which results in that half and half?   Get in where you can fit in.  Each partner in the relationship should be able to stand on his/her own feet and bring something to the table.

Some people say that prenuptial agreements before a marriage spell doom for the marriage.   I disagree.  Each party should bring something to the table other than sex or money.   If all you want is sex, it would be cheaper to just pay for it without marriage.   What about personality, goals, plans, etc.?   If all you want is money, be honest about it, and get hired by the potential partner.

And, what happens after you marry or hook-up?    Marriages or partnerships may not work out even with the best of intentions.   For instance, in the movie, The Leisure Seeker, an elderly couple discovered that each had been unfaithful at some point during their marriage.  And, this was a couple who thought they had a perfect marriage.

How does this sound—one fourth of the time for self, one fourth for your partner/husband/wife, one fourth for children, one fourth for work?   That would include date nights with the husband/wife/partner, outings with either’s friends, and outings with the kids (school projects, sports, etc.).   If each has the other’s welfare at heart, the relationship may work.

Written by Rosa L. Griffin