The World is Still Rich with Opportunity

A few years ago, I came across the quote below made by a reviewer of Richard Carlson’s book, Don’t Worry Make Money, that came out in 1997.         I don’t know the reviewer’s name and never found the review referenced again. But, this was and is an inspiration to me and I have always referred back to it over the years. I have a copy of it on my cubicle at work and on my bathroom wall so I can read it when necessary.

“Do you think that opportunity only knocks once? If you do, Richard Carlson, author of Don’t Worry Make Money, says you’re buying into one of the most perpetuated ‘myths’ in our culture.

Carlson argues that this kind of thing inspires people to do things they really do not want to do. That it is based on a ‘never enough to go around’ mindset that just isn’t true. Thinking that it’s now or never, often encourages bad decision making, for instance, he says. You might take a job you do not want or move to an area that doesn’t really sit well with you.

The world we live in is rich with ever-increasing opportunity, he says. The world is in need of creative people and everyone has their own gifts and talents to offer. You just have to figure out how it’s going to work for you. There are thousands of jobs out there that you can do. There are thousands of business opportunities.

But, Carlson says, first you have to overcome your fear: The fear of not having enough. The fear that you only get one shot and then it’s over.

It’s a big lie. Your life will be filled with great opportunities over and over again.”

On the other hand, you may be a person who has been blessed by some wonderful opportunities. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t more coming your way!

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

V O T E ! The 2020 Presidential Election in Maryland

Unlike the ballots automatically mailed to most registered voters for the June primary election, voters in the General Presidential Election will have to apply for the mail-in ballot.

Ballot request forms (applications) were mailed to Maryland’s 4 million registered voters from August 24 through the end of August.    The actual requested ballots will not be mailed back to those requesting a ballot until early October.   The State Board of Elections has set a deadline of October 20 to request a mail-in ballot (apply).   Election day, November 3, is the deadline for ballots to be received.

The law has been changed so that in Maryland absentee ballots are the same as mail-in ballots.   Absentee voting is the same as mail-in voting.

Early voting begins Monday, October 26 through Monday, November 2 between 7 a.m. and 8 p.m.

To get a mail-in ballot

Go to elections.maryland.gov   

Click on the Request a Mail-in Ballot graphic or Mail-in Voting under quick links.   Complete and return one of the forms by U.S. mail today or fax to 410-886-0894 today or email a scanned attachment to the fax number today.  There are English and Spanish versions.

Or Text Message

Text VBM (English) or VPC (Spanish) to 777-88 today.  The election board will text you a link to request your mail-in ballot online.

Or Go to the local Board of Elections

Fill out and turn in the form as soon as possible.   The Baltimore County board of elections is located at 11112 Gilroy Road, Suite 104, Hunt Valley 21031.   Phone 410-887-5700, fax 410-887-0894.

When you receive your form, read the instructions, complete the form, print it, sign it, and return it by U.S. mail or place it in a drop box.  There will be at least 270 ballot drop boxes.

Otherwise, Vote In-Person

Early voting begins Monday, October 26 through Monday, November 2 between 7 a.m. and 8 p.m.  At elections.maryland.gov, you will find the locations for approximately 80 voting centers statewide.

General Presidential Election is officially Tuesday, November 3, 2020, same hours as above.

Election Judges Needed

To become a judge, visit baltimorecountymd.gov/Agencies/elections/ or call the Baltimore County Board of Elections at 410-887-5700 whether you are a state employee, college student, etc.

Source:  Northwest Voice, July/August 2020 (A free publication serving Owings Mills, Pikesville, Randallstown, Reisterstown, Windsor Mill, Woodlawn and Catonsville neighborhoods), P.O. Box 47266, Windsor Mill, MD 21244, Phone:  410-508-1424, Web:  nwvoicenews.com, Email:  info@nwvoicenews.com, Publisher:  Kenneth C. Brown, kennybrown@nwvoicenews.com

Review of book My Love Story by Tina Turner (2018)

After reading Ms. Turner’s book, I’m reminded of Kelly Clarkson’s song, A Moment Like This.

“Some people wait a lifetime…

some people search forever…

for that one special kiss…

Oh, I can’t believe it’s happening to me…

Could this be the greatest love of all…”

Songwriters:  John Reid/Jorgen Elofsson

Lyrics Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group

In her prior book, What’s Love Got to Do With It, Ms. Turner had finally loved herself and her children enough to fight for her freedom from physical and sexual abuse.  She was a young woman when she met the talented Ike Turner, musician who became boss of the Ike and Tina Turner Revue.   But only faith in her God and finally realizing that she did not have to stay in that situation brought her through the abuse, overwork, and lack of money. 

Even her mother helped keep her in the imprisonment because her mother admired Ike and credited Ike with everything positive that occurred.   Women were only a means to an end for Ike so he kept many even in their home.   After a while, Tina was just a meal ticket for Ike.   It’s like a Cinderella story but more like the Grimm version.   Once she escaped, she became a role model to other abused people.  All she kept was her stage name.  Her troubled past is merely a point of reference in this book to compare to her happy future.

My Love Story gives some of the above background for those who don’t already know her story.   But the rest of this book is pure happiness in spite of medical problems in her later life.   This book is written when Ms. Turner is 73, and after she has written other books.   She is still full of life, looks, and love.   It is a love story to her current husband, Erwin Bach, German record executive, and fans like me.   When it comes to love, race nor country matter.   What matters is freedom of choice, respect, individuality, etc.

My Love Story has beautiful color pictures in the inside front and back covers, and in the middle of the book.  Ms. Turner talks of her friendships established with various musicians like David Bowie, Mick Jagger, and other music industry people like Beyonce’. There was even a London musical done about her life which became a Broadway musical.    She has earned twelve Grammy Awards, a Grammy Award for Lifetime Achievement, a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, was in a movie role “Mad Max Beyond Thunderdome”, received a Kennedy Center Honor, and sold more concert tickets than any other solo music performer in history by 2018.   She also continues to get letters from abused people about their situations.  This is a positive book.  You will really get a lift from reading this book.

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

Review of movie Nymphomaniac vol. 1&2 Extended Editor’s Cut (2013)

This is a very artistic movie by Lars Von Trier.   The movie literally started with a black screen with only the sound of rain hitting metal and opening onto a fully clothed body lying in an alley. 

I was pleasantly surprised to see Stellan Skarsgard as the celibate man Seligman who rescued adult main female lead Joe (Charlotte Gainsbourg) who was left in an alley in the rain after a vicious beating by an old boyfriend.   Seligman listened to her story all night that she narrated from her childhood to adulthood.   Her memories stopped several times so Seligman could comment on her experiences, ask questions, or answer questions.  These were the peaceful, non-violent scenes when his opinions were translated into beautiful cinematography.

Christian Slater was great as Joe’s doctor father who spent a great deal of outdoor time with his daughter when she was little, teaching her about trees (his hobby).   She was also going to school to study medicine later on but gave it up.   Again, peaceful, non-violent times.  However, her mother was there only for a few minutes during the movie and basically disappeared.     

As a young girl Joe requested her first sex with a neighbor Jerome (Shia LaBoeuf), who came back into her life years later as her boss with whom she again had sex and a baby.  

I did not like the idea of Joe (Stacy Martin) and her girlfriend as young unchaperoned teenage girls participating in sex with men.   The girl who had sex with the most men on a train was rewarded with a bag of candy as the prize.  Why she and her girl friend had so much time by themselves was not explained.

As an adult, she also had sex with several strangers as well as K a sadist (Jamie Bell).  Joe (Charlotte Gainsbourg) was so obsessed with orgasm and physical sex that she damaged her own genitals when she got older from overuse. 

Joe’s character was truly a nymphomaniac who left her toddler alone to go meet her sadist.   The baby would have fallen off their balcony if not for the father coming home just in time.   She ended up giving the baby away.    She was a true nymphomaniac addicted to sex at any cost, not like the movie Diary of a Nymphomaniac that I reviewed in 2017.     

Mrs. H (Uma Thurman) was the screaming wife of one of young Joe’s lovers.  L (Willem Dafoe) was a guy who hired older Joe as a money collector in which she tortured people with their own truths.   There were other great actors playing other parts also like Connie Nielsen, Udo Kier, Caroline Goodall, Cyron Melville, etc.   During the commentary, Stacy Martin (young Joe) said that there were stand-ins for the sex scenes.  

The combined vol. 1 & 2 Extended Editor’s Cut was 5.5 hours long total, and I watched both volumes to see whether Joe would change her behavior or her life, which she did not.   But Joe did survive to the end.   The NC-17-rated movie was violent and graphic.   However, there is an unexpected twist at the end that fades into darkness.  

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

Are Social Security and Medicare at Risk?

“You don’t have to worry about the government eliminating them.  They are among the most popular programs in the country.  It is unrealistic to believe that Congress would make these programs go away.

At the current rate of withdrawal, though, and under current law, all Social Security beneficiaries will see their benefits cut 23 percent in about 15 years.  It’s time for a bipartisan solution to the problem.  One party would prefer to raise taxes to preserve current benefits.  The other party would prefer to lower or delay benefits in order to not raise taxes.  The two are going to have to compromise.  The sooner that they begin working on the solution, the less painful it will be for all Americans.”

Quote by Ric Edelman, founder of Edelman Financial Engines, as quoted in the May 2020 issue of AARP Bulletin, vol. 61, no.4, pp.22-23: “Expert Advice for Volatile Times: Some of the Sharpest Minds in the Financial World Break Down What’s Going on in the Economy and How You Can Ride It Out”.

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

Separation of Church and State

There was an interesting discussion on Twitter on June 24, 2020 about the separation of church and state.

Some one mentioned that the separation of church and state is not in the U.S. Constitution.   The idea was mentioned by Thomas Jefferson in a letter to the Virginia Danbury Baptist Church.   Many other Twitter contributors brought up what they considered to be negative uses of money in today’s crystal cathedrals, jets, and other signs of wealth that some megachurches have while other churches are poor and actually do what Jesus would do in helping the poor, etc.   

I had to look it up and Time magazine did an article on it which verified what was discussed on Twitter.  The First Amendment only prohibits government from creating a law regarding the establishment of a religion.

 Sources:    

https://time.com/5103677/church-state-separation-religious-freedom/

A popular current text, the King James Version shows 1 Timothy 6:10 to be: For the love of money is the root of all of evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.

en.wikipedia.org › wiki › Love_of_money

 12 ¶ And Jesus went into the temple of God, and cast out all them that sold and bought in the temple, and overthrew the tables of the moneychangers, and the seats of them that sold doves, 13 And said unto them, It is written, My ahouse shall be called the house of bprayer; but ye have made it a cden of thieves.   


Matthew 21 – The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

www.churchofjesuschrist.org › study › scriptures › matt

Also check www.irs.gov on Charities, Churches, and Politics.

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

Review of Maya Angelou’s book Wouldn’t Take Nothing for My Journey Now (1993, Bantam books, Random House)

This is a thin book about Ms. Angelou’s musings about herself, her life, and her interactions with other people throughout her life.

She was not a gentle woman but a courageous woman who did not let anyone treat her badly from what she writes in this book.  Some of the sections are Faith, Taking Time for Yourself, Death and Grieving, Style, etc.

One section that stood out for me is how she lost a white “friend” just by asking him to repeat something he said to her a few times until he understood what he said in the section “Our Boys”:  “You know the black soldiers are having a horrific time over there, and our boys are having a tough time, too”.   The man was president of the National Council of Christians and Jews at that time and had been in Germany trying to “ameliorate the conditions for the American soldiers”.  He never returned her calls after that.

Ms. Angelou: “The incident saddened and burdened me.   The man, his family and friends were lessened by not getting to know me and my family and friends.   And it also meant that I, my family, and friends were lessened by not getting to know him.   Because we never had a chance to talk, to teach each other, and learn from each other.   Racism had diminished all the lives it had touched.  Diversity makes for a rich tapestry.”

Maya Angelou (/ˈændʒəloʊ/ (listen);[1][2] born Marguerite Annie Johnson; April 4, 1928 – May 28, 2014) was an American poet, memoirist, and civil rights activist. She published seven autobiographies, three books of essays, several books of poetry, and is credited with a list of plays, movies, and television shows spanning over 50 years. She received dozens of awards and more than 50 honorary degrees.[3] Angelou is best known for her series of seven autobiographies, which focus on her childhood and early adult experiences. The first, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings (1969), tells of her life up to the age of 17 and brought her international recognition and acclaim. In 1993, Angelou recited her poem “On the Pulse of Morning” (1993) at the first inauguration of Bill Clinton, making her the first poet to make an inaugural recitation since Robert Frost at the inauguration of John F. Kennedy in 1961. (Wikipedia)

It reminds me about some things Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr. said:

“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”

“There comes a time when silence is betrayal.”

“I have heard numerous religious leaders of the South call upon their worshippers to comply with a segregation decision because it is the law, but I have longed to hear white ministers say, ‘follow this decree because integration is morally right and the Negro is your brother’”.   Excerpt from “Letter from a Birmingham Jail”, April 16, 1963.  BRC-News:  Black Radical Congress-General News/Alerts/Announcements   (Full letter https://stanford.edu/group/docs/Birmingham.html)

I liked Maya Angelou’s book, “Wouldn’t Take Nothing for My Journey Now”.   It gave me some insight into her personality and life.  My favorite poem of hers is “Phenomenal Woman”.

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

Absolute Power Corrupts Absolutely (A Quote)

[Reprinted from March 8, 2018]

This was a best-known quote of the 19th century British politician, historian, and moralist Lord John Emerich Edward Dalberg Acton 1834-1902, in a letter to Bishop Mandell Creighton in 1887.  But, he was borrowing from other speakers or writers who earlier said it differently. 

A king was the one with the most wealth and power.  This person thinks that all in their “kingdom” are pawns to do with as they please and they’ve done it so long that they believe their own hype.    They rule by threats, coercion, bargaining, murder, and compensating.   “…this option to impose on without any regard whatsoever for due process, becomes, in the hands of most, a license to harm, if not destroy the careers and lives of others.  Leadership incompetence” 1

“Absolute monarchies are those in which all power is given to, or as is more often the case, taken by, the monarch.   Examples were Roman emperors who thought they were gods and Napoleon Bonaparte who declared himself emperor”.2

There’s no room for absolute power in a democracy of checks and balances.  As seen recently, if you act only to build your own wealth, it will eventually come back to bite you in the behind.

As in the movie, The Man Who Would Be King (1975), based on Rudyard Kipling’s 1888 original story, two con men (Carnehan and Dravot, “British adventurers in British India”) sought their fortune in a foreign country, Afghanistan.   They were fellow freemasons to the journalist that they convinced to help them with their research.  They started out by helping people who were warring against each other and came up with satisfactory solutions.   But, then they went a few steps too far by becoming kings themselves over people whose customs they didn’t understand.  

Since the holy men who lorded over all the local tribes declared Dravot (Sean Connery) a descendant of Alexander the Great because of the freemason symbol he wore around his neck, he basically was thought to be a God until he told the holy men that he was going to marry a local girl and father children.  The local girl was instructed to bite Dravot on the face causing him to bleed.  Seeing Dravot bleed, the holy men knew he was not a God, and executed him.  

Two years later Carnehan (Michael Caine) returned to the journalist.   They had paid for their deceit.  Carnehan had been tortured, crippled, and released.   But, he showed the journalist (Christopher Plummer) the skeletal head of Dravot that was still wearing his golden crown.   Both actors did a wonderful job, especially Sean Connery explaining that he felt this Godship was his calling, and he intended to mend his ways.   Had they left with the spoils before they were outed, as Carnehan wanted to do, they would have been wealthy men.   But, Dravot believed his own hype. 3

And, now we have another example of absolute power in the case of the Saudi Arabian American journalist executed in the Saudi consulate in Turkey recently.    He was the same journalist who accompanied President 45’s business dealers to Saudi Arabia on past trips.  And, don’t forget the arms deal President 45 had already made with the Saudis.

Sources:

1.  Dr. Robert Aziz, Huffington Post, https://m.huffpost.com

2.  Absolute Power Corrupts Absolutely (A Quote), https://www.phrases.org.uk

3.  Wikipedia, Rudyard Kipling, The Phantom ‘Rickshaw and other Eerie Tales’

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

Lovemaking Preferred

Is love-making the same as sex?   It can be.   Does love-making require sexual intercourse?   Usually it occurs but it is not always required if lovemaking is done right.

Lovemaking means more than just a “wham-bam-thank you-mam or -sir” kind of interaction although that is acceptable on occasion.  WBTYMOS has its place but when you have the time, do it right.  Putting more time in makes it interesting.   Lovemaking could take hours.

I have known men who only performed “wham-bam” consistently without lovemaking or foreplay at all.   But I have also been driven into a frenzy by men who knew how to make love or preferred long sexual foreplay.   I prefer love-making the majority of the time.

It can start with a look, a smell, a touch, a laugh, a giggle, a taste, a voice, a written message, a dance, etc.—things that attract you to another person.  Get to know the person by phone calls, text messages, in person, etc.   Lovemaking should be employed specifically the way you and the person to whom you are attracted like it.  

Lovemaking is multi-faceted:  sucking, licking, touching, breathing in ear, fingering various openings on the body, body to body, toes inserted into interesting places, etc.  Any of these actions can be done separately or in combination.   Spooning (holding each other both in the same direction as spoons laid sideways, cuddling, etc.) “may have the surprising ability to reduce pain…helps in releasing feel-good hormones which in turn can reduce stress levels in both partners.”  (“Spooning—What is Spooning & Its Secret Benefits for Your Health”, https://www.nectarsleep.co.uk/blog, April 15, 2019.)

Men and women who probably have the best sex are those who have mastered lovemaking. Some people appreciate variety using edible things during sex like strawberries, whipped cream, edible lubricants, edible underwear, etc., as a change of pace or variety.  As in the past, people are still having sex in cars, on a bed, on the floor, on a billiard table, etc.   Let your imagination run wild, but safely.   For example, sex while paragliding or on a ski lift might be too dangerous for anyone except the fictional James Bond.

No Strings Attached (NSA) sex is another term for “having sex with nothing bonding the two parties together.  There is a culture of ‘hooking up’ that has become popular among college students and young adults”.  “No Stings Attached Sex (NSA): Can Women Really Do It”,   https://www.psychologytoday.com, November 20, 2011.  The movie that comes to mind is “No Strings Attached”, 2011, with Natalie Portman and Ashton Kutcher.  The woman had no trouble having no strings attached.

Friends with benefits (FWB) is “commonly defined as a sexual relationship between two people where the primary basis of the relationship is sex with no expectations of a romantic relationship or other commitment” like marriage or living together. “Friends With Benefits (FWB)—What Does It Really Mean”, https://www.justbewild.com, September 6, 2019.   The movie that comes to mind is “Friends with Benefits”, 2011, starring Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake.   Also, the movie “Mistrust” 2018 comes to mind, starring Jane Seymour, Parker Stevenson (great to see him), Patrick Bristow, etc.  However, it could have had a better title or it was given that title just to spark interest.

There are similarities between NSA and FWB, but I find that things can be added to the agreement such as treating each other to trips and vacations, being available to escort and pick each other up from doctor visits or hospital stays and visiting each other’s homes for sex which may or may not become long-term relationships.  One can have all the bells and whistles with or without marriage.  For example, Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell had been together without marriage since 1983.

Long Term Relationship (LTR) is the ultimate goal for some.  LTR implies that two people want only each other, a joint home, and possibly children.  “21 Bits of Relationship Advice from People in Long-Lasting Relationships”, Andy Golder, https://www.buzzfeed.com/,  January 6, 2019.   “What Makes a Relationship Last Long”, Andrew Ferebee, 3X Bestselling Dating Author/Men’s Relationship Coach/Founder of Knowledge for Men, Quora (Report), https://www.quora.com/, August 7, 2017.   

The comedic “Thin Man” detective movies (1934-1947) come to mind starring Myrna Loy and William Powell in a happy marriage that is always in physical and emotional danger.   Also, the animated Pixar film “Up” specifically shows how the elderly husband met his wife beginning in childhood and stayed with her until she died, even trying to get their house to the one spot they had been promising each other to move to for years—from happy marriage to dangerous adventure.

Final thought—If you are strangers to each other, remember communicable and sexually transmitted diseases existed before Coronavirus COVID-19, so social distance, wash hands, and wear a mask.   However, on the news recently, I saw a man in a bubble walking with a new girlfriend and another man who was wooing a woman from separate rooftops. This proves that new relationships can be started even in this stressful time.  “A Guide to Sex and Love in the Time of Covid-19”, https://www.healthline.com, Gabrielle Kassel, March 21, 2020.

Healthline.com is an excellent source for anything to do with health.   That website covers a variety of topics like “Are There Any Side Effects of Sexual Activity?”, Gabrielle Kassel, June 5, 2020; “Everything to Know about Male Genitalia”, Jill Seladi-Schulman, June 5, 2020; and “20 Reasons You Should Be Spooning, Variations to Consider and More”, Lauren Sharkey, November 22, 2019, to name a few.

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

Blog Review of Movie, It Comes at Night (2017)

Although the movie is basically seen through the eyes of a teenager, it is very relatable to today.   A family of four is isolated in a house in a wooded area.   The family has a radio, a water source, a food source, and weapons.   But there is very little national news to go on. 

The grandfather becomes sick with a mysterious disease with icky stuff dripping from his mouth. They don’t even realize that there is a contagion or I think they would have worn masks and gloves to take the grandfather outside the home and gotten rid of his belongings as well.  Sounds familiar, doesn’t it?

Will, a stranger (Christopher Abbott) breaks into their house for food and water.    Once they are convinced that he is not trying to kill them, Paul the father (Joel Edgerton) and Sarah the mother (Carmen Ejogo) agree that the stranger and his wife Kim (Riley Keough) and toddler Andrew (Griffin Faulkner) can come and stay.   When Paul and Will go to bring Will’s family to Paul’s house, they are attacked along the route by armed men and survive the encounter.

Once Will’s family is brought back, strange things start happening and Paul thinks that one of the invited strangers is doing things like killing his dog or leaving the door unsecured at night.   Paul’s solution to trouble is to put the strangers out again to fend for themselves but kills them instead.   Also, we find out through a flashback that Paul had shot and buried the grandfather thinking this would get rid of the sickness.  However, he kept the bed that the grandfather had been sick in.

But it turns out that Paul and Sarah’s teenage son Travis (Kelvin Harrison, Jr.) would have dreams and do mysterious things at night, unknown even to himself.   And it is discovered that the son also has the contagion, which is the reason why he is doing strange things.

And, in the end, the husband and wife are left not knowing what they should do next.   Have they too been contaminated or are they ok?   Are the water source and the food supply uncontaminated?

This movie was as intense as A Quiet Place (2018) and it had not a dull moment.   It Comes by Night is fast-paced and the flash backs make sense.   This movie is labeled Horror/Mystery but borders on the supernatural in atmosphere.  

I saw Joel Edgerton in the movies Loving and Red Sparrow. 

I saw Carmen Ejogo in the movies Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them, and Fantastic Beasts: The Crimes of Grindelwald, etc.

I saw Kelvin Harrison, Jr. in the movie Luce.   I understand that he is in the movie Mudbound.   I read the excellent book Mudbound, but I have not seen that movie yet.

You have got to hear Riley Keough’s scream toward the end of the movie.   It will break your heart.  Also, Riley is singers-songwriters Lisa Marie Pressley and Danny Keough’s daughter. The movie was directed by Trey Edward Shults.

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

More Tidbits

‘‘’Seismic’ Events and Loss Have Shaped US History: World Wars to 9/11— Catastrophe Has Long Driven Social Change”, by Marco della Cava, USA Today, Weekend, April 17-19, 2020, 1A.

“The virus is a modern-day terrorist attack on us all, so if I lost my father or friend to 9/11 or Oklahoma City or COVID-19, the loss is the same,” Watkins says.  “The sacrifice is the same.”

“Whenever we go through these national tragedies, people have to have a chance to rebuild their lives and move forward,” Watkins says. “So many are dying now, but we have to make the very best of the very worst.”

“We might take baby steps together, and maybe there will be mistakes on both sides of the political aisle.  But we should all be working together now for America.”

Kari Watkins, Executive Director, Oklahoma City National Memorial and Museum

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“Keeping Calm in Turbulent Times” by Margaret Foster, The Beacon in Focus for People over 50, Vol. 17, No. 5, p.1, 7.

“We’re all having anxiety about the future,” said Dr. Sally Winston, co-founder of the Anxiety and Stress Disorders Institute of Maryland, located on the Sheppard Pratt campus.

“Acknowledge your emotions.  What you resist, persists (Carl Jung).  Turning on the radio to drown out your thoughts is distraction which doesn’t work for long.  The other way is to say, while one part of my mind is worrying, I might as well listen to music.  It helps to acknowledge fear, anger, or confusion.”

“Stay in touch with others.  Pick up the phone and call a friend.   Learn some video chat programs that you can use on your smartphone, tablet, or computer.   Skype, Zoom, Google Hangouts, Facebook Messenger and WeChat are free.   Many churches are live-streaming services.”  [Someone did a program on letter writing and journaling is also helpful.   I keep a daily diary as a mental activity.]

“Go on a news diet.   Restrict your news-gathering time” especially if it stresses you out.   [I look at one news cast a day and spend no more than an hour on Twitter every other day.]

“Try for mindfulness (staying in the present moment).   Pause for self-reflection.  When you are worrying, there’s a ‘what if’ mindset in which you are in the future.  Try to do something that is sensory or active.”   [I listen to an opera called the Flower Duet-Lakmè by Lèo Delibes which is two sopranos singing to each other.  It is beautiful and restful.]

“Move your body.  Exercise has therapeutic and physical benefits.  Follow a free exercise video on YouTube.”  [I have attended a Tai Chi for Better Balance class at a senior center for nearly four years.   It is slow movement and you’ll find great company and make friends when things get back to normal.   I also have an exercise video called Aging Backwards 3 Essentrics by Miranda Esmonde-White which is slow stretching.  It also includes chair exercises (beginner-beginner) for those who have a hard time moving at all.]

“How to get help.    Extreme anxiety or depression?   Reach out to a mental health professional at the Anxiety and Stress Disorders Institute of Maryland 410-938-8449.   Or read Winston’s Psychology Today column, “Living with a Sticky Mind”, at bit.ly/worrytips.   In Baltimore City, call the city’s free Crisis, Information, and Referral Line at 410-433-5175.”

Check out the Beacon for the details of the article from the news stand or online at www.thebeaconnewspapers.com.   “How are you faring?” p.2 “The undeniable loss of experiences.  Enjoyment is seriously lessened.”   [The Beacon newspaper itself can also have a calming effect with the variety of topics it covers each issue.]

“These 25 Photos Show Why Things Were Designed the Way They Were”, by John Poe, Fetch Sport, April 15, 2020, online.

For example—the fifth pocket on jeans; ridges on the edges of corners; lines on outside of Solo Cups; cap holes on pens; loops on the grocery cart; notebook margins; dimples on golf balls; the arrow next to the gas gauge; the secret message in the exit sign; free fabric in new clothes; and so much more.

“Quaran-Stream”, by Leah Greenblatt, Entertainment Weekly, May 2020, pp.50-51.

“People—or most of us, at least—need people.”

“…pop culture is often what’s keeping us sane, from one uncertain day to the next.”

“So, will these methods of consumption become the new normal?”

“Robert Thompson, a professor of pop culture at Syracuse University, says ‘There were all these other ways that [content] used to be delivered to us, and now it’s one single means of delivery, and that is online, to whatever device you feel like looking at it with…  And once you’ve learned to stream stuff—what you want to watch, when you want to watch it—it’s hard to go back.’”

[I still have magazines delivered to me.  Streaming to a phone can be hard on the eyes.  A few of Barbara Streisand’s songs come to mind: “The Way We Were”, “People” (Needing People) and “What Are You Doing the Rest of Your Life?”.]

Written by Rosa L. Griffin