Gone with the Wind, book and movie

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I also enjoyed Gone With the Wind because I like movies that are historical, showing how people lived back then–the housing, costumes, songs, etc.

As a Black woman, I agree that things have gone too far when we are trying to ban or get rid of everything historical.   I also agree that no confederate flags should be flying over any municipal or federal buildings anywhere in the U.S.

But I don’t have a problem with white peoples’ showing pride for their own history on their personal belongings.  Remember, the Dukes of Hazzard–a popular tv show–had their General Lee car.  And, remember, the statues were dedicated during a different era.

Museums are the places for the statues, etc. dedicated to slavery and prejudice.  Like I saw engraved on a monument to the Jewish holocaust, “If we forget the past, we may fall prey to these evil things again” (paraphrased).   But, I suspect that U.S. President No. 45 missed the whole point of protesters being able to protest the statues without getting shot or bludgeoned.

“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”  George Santayana, 20th century Spanish-American philosopher associated with Pragmatism.

https://en.m.wikiquote.org/wiki/George_Santayana

Rosa L. Griffin

 

 

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Internet radio broadcasts of songs and shows from the 1920’s to the 1950’s.   Live streamed for free.  Available in the Apple app store.  On Android, Old Time Radio and Shows app free at Google Play.

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Rosa L. Griffin

 

Review of Diary of a Nymphomaniac

By Rosa L. Griffin

In the French movie with subtitles, Diary of a Nymphomaniac (2008), a young woman, Valerie (Belen Fabra),  “discovered” sex with a young single man.  And, with any new experience you enjoy, you want to keep partaking of it.  She thought she would stay with him forever, but he refused to keep up with her demands for sex.  Her second man was married and also refused to keep up with her needs.  So, she was labeled as a sex addict or nymphomaniac.

So, with her next man, she attempted marriage and discovered that he was a cruel drug addict, so the marriage was off.   Feeling that she may as well be what she was being labeled, Valerie turned to prostitution so that she could enjoy sex often.  However, she made the mistake of falling in love with a customer who was not in love with her.  She was definitely looking for love in the wrong place.

The most poignant scene in the brothel was her making love with a paraplegic who only had feelings in his hands.   However, she was treated very badly by another customer—her first anal rape by a scraggly old drunk—and her female madam tried to get her to take a dead female lover’s place.

Valerie had a great rapport with her grandmother to whom she could talk with any time about anything, played by Geraldine Chaplin, who spoke French fluently.

The bottom line is that Valerie was looking for love, not just sex.   She was not a nymphomaniac and did not have sex with anyone and everyone she met with no thought for the consequences—which is a loose definition of nymphomania.     I believe that you should pursue sex on your own terms, instead of settling for the first man or woman to come along.    But, how will you know unless you can experiment safely?

I disagree with IMDb (Internet Movie Database) that Valerie eventually found redemption in the version that I saw.    There was no need for redemption as she was, like men, experimenting with sex.   However, what she found was that she was responsible for her own decisions and could handle that responsibility.

P.S. Give foreign films a chance.   Yes, you have to read the subtitles, but most of them are worth taking the time.

Some interesting resources:

https://m.fictionpress.com/s/2034269/Memoirs-of-a-Nymphomaniac.   Delightful poem

www.xojane.com/it-happened-to-me/sex-addiction-more-than-just-a-bad-habit

https://theconversation.com/what-makes-a-woman-a-nymphomaniac-20306

http://www.toptenz.net/top-10-facts-about-nymphomaniacs.php

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/may/07/confessions-of-a-menopausal-nymphmaniac-sex-dating-apps