You’re Kinky—Admit It!   Review of the movie Fifty Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Grey is a version of the Cinderella story, two people who would not have been exposed to each other except by coincidence.   Ana (Cinderella) filled in for her sick roommate/school editor and physically fell in front of the interviewee, Christian (the Prince).

Christian Grey!  Shades of S&M (Sadomasochism).  Your Dominant probably saved your sanity, your self-worth, etc. in your damaged youth.  You also knew what it meant to be a Submissive.  You’ve had so many women and were overly experienced in sex but emotionally unavailable.  You are attracted to Anastasia’s innocence.  Your immaturity shows in your jealousy toward any other male who wanted to even talk to Anastasia—and this was before you even had sex with her.  Every time you revealed something personal to her about yourself, you reverted to a little boy who was abused by your mother’s drug addict friends.  You even walked like a little boy.   When you asked Ana, “What are you doing to me?”, it’s obvious that with this woman you were nearly ready to change.  As with any addiction, change is painful.  For a man who didn’t do romance, you had a strange way of showing it with all the trips and gifts you were showering on her to attempt to persuade her to fulfill the contract.

Anastasia Steele!  You were a young woman totally inexperienced in sex but emotionally available.  You had male and female college friends.   However, you weren’t attracted to your male friends, but were attracted to Grey who tried to put you at ease in the interview for your college newspaper you conducted for your female roommate who had the flu.   Your immediate objectives lay in your upcoming finals and graduating.   Would you, the damsel who was not in distress, save the “knight” who was?  When Christian asked, “Do you trust me?”, of course, you said “yes” because you wanted what you thought he should have been able to give emotionally.  Every woman wants to have sex with a man who knows how to do it right (or is at least teachable) when he allows himself to be so.

I saw the movie in a movie theatre in 2015—one of the few times I’ve gone to movie theaters.   I believe the movie will become a classic in the adult genre.   There is nothing wrong with having a classic under your belt, although it’s certainly not a love story in the usual sense.   I just finished reading all three books:  Fifty Shades of Grey, Fifty Shades Darker, and Fifty Shades Freed.   I will write a review of them later.

The movie begged for a sequel.   So many things were not fully addressed in the first movie.  I begged Jamie Dornan and Dakota Johnson to do the sequel.  I hoped also that the screenwriters would outdo the first movie in their sequel.   The soundtrack was stupendous, especially Annie Lennox’s version of the song “I put a spell on you” which began the movie!   Thank you, author E. L. James!

Admit it, fellow kinks—you came for the sex, and either the potential love story kept you there or the intensity of the little bit of “torture” made you walk out (as some critics say they did)!

Written by Rosa L. Griffin


On Reading

If you have never liked reading, you are missing a lot because movies would have to be as long as Margaret Mitchell’s Gone with the Wind movie (4 hours) in order to get as many of the author’s book details as possible into a movie.

To become a reader, start slowly.    Have a dictionary or your smart phone near by to look up words you don’t understand.    Or, make a list of those words to look up later.

If you can’t read at all, there are voluntary organizations available.   Some libraries have reading programs to help you learn to read and there are other free programs listed on the Internet.

I improved my reading ability by reading Gothic novels in my teens written by British authors such as Emily Bronte, Charlotte Bronte, Mary Shelley, Bram Stoker, Robert Louis Stevenson, Jane Austen, Oscar Wilde, Daphne du Maurier, etc.

I’ve also read American authors like Shirley Jackson, James Baldwin, Stephen King, Ann Rice, Edgar Allen Poe, Walter Mosley, Joyce Carol Oates, Ray Bradbury, Tananarive Due, Isaac Asimov, Maya Angelou, etc.

However, there are two authors that are hard for me to read:  Toni Morrison and Richard Wright.  I don’t know why they seem to be so difficult.   One day, I plan on conquering their books as well.

I only use audio books if I can’t find a printed copy of a book I want to read.    I like the feel of a book in my hand and I don’t want to have to keep scrolling up, down, or across on the page electronically.

P.S. 11/20/19  I just finished reading my first Toni Morrison book, Sula.   It was wonderful and not hard to read at all.   I will soon write a blog review of it.

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

On Fantasy 

“Since I had plenty of leisure time, I usually rose early in the morning, and then with an empty mind concentrated on the beauty of the fields, trees, rivers, mountains, and clouds, and I found that I could predict the weather right 7 or 8 times out of 10.   Then I realized that in quietness the universe can be observed, the inner moods felt and obtained.”  (What author Yeh Meng-te wrote about quietness in 1156,

For me, fantasy is escape by using one’s imagination.   Your imagination can take you to faraway places like the many countries explored on public television.   If fantasy is controlled safely and not obsessive, it can be better than drugs.

Probably in the pioneer days, people imagined many ways they could escape the drudgery of doing anything which had no future of success.   It might have taken a year just to receive a letter.   Farmers, some of the hardest-working people on earth, have kept the world fed for centuries despite droughts, tornados, floods, etc.   In an AARP article, I discovered that doctors suffer from PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) worrying about us among other things.  I never imagined that.

We have a lot of things from which we want to escape these days.  We receive “news” instantly as it happens—minute-by-minute.    Whether we see or hear it broadcast in some type of medium like our smart phones or the people you meet are discussing it daily—Bam! It’s in your face or ears.  We are bombarded constantly with “noise”.

“Reality tv” is not reality, but it can take you away from your situation.   You can see peoples’ situations that are a lot worse or better than yours on television shows like “Jerry Springer”, “Maury”, “The Kardashians”, “Survivor”, etc.  I would call these guilty pleasures because unless you are writing a thesis on them, I wouldn’t watch them more than once.   However, the audiences seem to enjoy them so maybe that’s their escape from reality.

Music is another way to escape.    I like to listen to Bruno Mars or the “Flower Duet” (a famous duet for soprano and mezzo-soprano from Le’o Delibes’ opera Lakme’, first performed in Paris in 1883—Wikipedia).  Fantasy can relieve tiredness from working especially if you can’t get what you want in promotion or advancement.   Even the government recently is trying to take away a citizen’s earned benefits like Social Security, Medicare, tax benefits, etc.– the things that past U.S. presidents and legislators secured for us.

Wikipedia lists about 20 themes (subgenres) of fantasy if you want to get deep into the types of fantasy.  I don’t intend to get that deep.   Erotic romance, fiction, science fiction, and autobiographies are fantasy enough for me.

I’m sure you can imagine a few things you would rather be doing.   Figure out a way to have quiet and/or leisure time every day.   I find that in quiet, I have a chance to think for myself, create, and listen to the sensible no matter the political party.


“The Doctor Diaries:  What Physicians Wish Patients Knew”, Healthy You, AARP the magazine, June/July 2018, pp. 22-23.


Written by Rosa L. Griffin



Review of book: Fifty Shades of Grey, by E. L. James

Last week, I borrowed and read the book Fifty Shades of Grey by E. L. James.  This is her first book of three in the series.  This week, I’m reading Fifty Shades Darker, the second book in the series.   I already have the third book, Fifty Shades Freed.

I borrowed all 3 books from the library at the same time.   However, I paid to see all three movies (my control-freak side) on the big screen.  I needed closure to see how their sado-masochistic (S&M) adventure worked out.    I have to find the review I wrote of the first movie and I will be writing a review of the book trilogy as a whole.

I read someone’s comment before I saw the first movie that her books couldn’t possibly be bestsellers because they are so poorly written.  That commenter was a liar.   E. L. James’ books are well-written from pretty sex-novice character Anastasia Steele’s point of view in her turbulent affair with handsome rich young man, Christian Grey.

Another commenter asked why Christian Grey had to be rich.   Being poor is not something I want to fantasize about.  Fantasy is how we escape a condition we don’t want to be in.   Been there–lived that!

“Laters, baby!”

Written by Rosa L. Griffin







I’m still writing a review of Jodi Picoult’s book, Small Great Things.   The review is coming soon.


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