Review of movie, Moms’ Night Out (2014)

I saw this movie on DVD from the public library.

This movie is about moms who are stressed to the point of violent acts or suicide, but it’s a comedy.   I was nearly stressed out in watching the movie myself because I thought it was going to turn into a horror movie, but I had to continue to watch to see how it came out.   All of the moms have issues, not unlike mothers today, and the issues revolved around their husbands and children.

The main mom Allyson (Sarah Drew) swears she can’t do anything right in trying to raise three small children with her husband Dr. Sean (Sean Astin), who can’t understand why there is such a problem.  Even with his wife in hysterics almost daily, he can’t understand why.   She only came up for air once when her little girl had made crayon drawings on the wall and she decided to put frames around them.   I thought she would continue to calm down then, but, no, she fussed out someone at a restaurant, etc., on her night out.  I thought she should go to counseling along with her husband and then maybe her husband would really be able to see her side.

Mom Sondra (Patricia Heaton) thinks she has to be perfect at all times in her role as a pastor’s wife (husband Ray played by Alex Kendrick), and be the correctional officer over their one daughter at the rebellious teenage age.    I felt most sorry for the pastor’s wife who had to be “on” all the time no matter where she went.   Everyone in her husband’s flock, the other moms, her neighborhood, and the world at large used her for their confessor, therapist, etc., and she had no one to confide in, even her busy husband.

Mom Izzy (Andrea Logan White) is actually the calmest of the group of moms but is stressed thinking that she may be pregnant with a third child with her usually hysterical husband (Robert Amaya).   Here’s where the roles are reversed.  The husband is like Allyson in that he feels he can’t do anything right with his children.

Although the husbands don’t have a clue about the plight of their wives, the voices of reason are the men in the movie, except for Izzy’s husband.   Even a male single friend, Kevin (Kevin Downes) was also the voice of reason in his calmness in any situation to which he applied his own solutions.

That tall drink of water, Bones (Trace Atkins), biker/tattoo shop owner, gave Allyson some good advice when the other two mothers were arrested.    She finally had a chance to calm down while waiting for the police to release the other two moms.   Bones spoke things God must have put on his heart to tell her about not trying to be perfect in her life, but to calm down, etc.   The thing is he couldn’t remember what he had told her after the other moms were released.

In spite of the hysterics, the movie is very well made.    I enjoyed it once I got de-stressed.   It was directed by the Erwin Brothers (Andrew and John), young guys with a lot of energy.   Half the actors were producers.

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

Four Factors–Great Sex for a Man

On 6/15/18, Matthew Boggs on Youtube suggested four things that men would like in sex.

They were:

  1. Frequency
  2. Variety (“routine lulls the brain to sleep”, “different rooms”)
  3. Fantasy (“fulfillment of same”)
  4. Intensity

Those four things are also important to a lot of women.

Maybe the men who don’t like sex much should get together with the women or partners who don’t like sex much.   You just know there are some out there.   And, leave us others to it.

Check out Matthew on Youtube.

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

 

 

 

 

Whipped (And Not in a Good Way) 

“To love at all is to be vulnerable.”  C. S. Lewis

Whether we are male or female, we shouldn’t have to give up everything we are to be in a relationship with anyone else.   Even if you accept the person as they are, be prepared for changes in that person and also in yourself sometime in the future.    Hair styles change, fashion changes, weight changes, knowledge changes, etc.  Discuss the intangibles before attaching yourself to another person.   Ask the “What if” questions.

Too many times on television shows or in movies, women are depicted as loud mouths.   The shows depict that the men always give in to everything the bully (wife or girlfriend) wants.    The women are always raging in the top of the house, which the Bible discourages in the book of Proverbs chapter 31.  The passage describes a woman with prospects.       I soon tire of those shows and stop watching.

Examples:

The wife/mother in the tv show “Are we there yet?”

The wife/mother in the tv show “Everyone Hates Chris”

The wife/mother in the tv show “Everyone Loves Raymond”

The wife in the tv show “The King of Queens”

Janet Jackson played a raging wife in the movie “Why Did I Get Married Too”.    In the first movie, Janet’s character had the answer to everything, but she had lost her mind by the sequel.   Mind you, I didn’t see any reason for her to be raging that counseling over the death of her son wouldn’t have helped.   Guilt can make you do strange things.

The wife in the television movie, “Men Don’t Tell”, didn’t just rage, but physically abused her husband who was a regular guy who would have not taken that kind of abuse from a man.   What she did to him was unusual.

The husband in the movie, N-Secure, married a beautiful woman and immediately tried to drastically change her appearance and where she could go.   I believe what you did to attract the person initially or what you were attracted to in another person shouldn’t be drastically changed because you are in a relationship.   The husband ended up trying to kill his wife because she wanted to escape his abusive ways.

In the movie, How to Make an American Quilt, a wife who was a former swimmer, stifled her own ambitions after marriage and pregnancies.   Marriage counseling might have done her some good.  She broke up her own family because of her insecurities.

I don’t believe there is such a thing as a 50/50 relationship.   Who determines what goes into the formula which results in that half and half?   Get in where you can fit in.  Each partner in the relationship should be able to stand on his/her own feet and bring something to the table.

Some people say that prenuptial agreements before a marriage spell doom for the marriage.   I disagree.  Each party should bring something to the table other than sex or money.   If all you want is sex, it would be cheaper to just pay for it without marriage.   What about personality, goals, plans, etc.?   If all you want is money, be honest about it, and get hired by the potential partner.

And, what happens after you marry or hook-up?    Marriages or partnerships may not work out even with the best of intentions.   For instance, in the movie, The Leisure Seeker, an elderly couple discovered that each had been unfaithful at some point during their marriage.  And, this was a couple who thought they had a perfect marriage.

How does this sound—one fourth of the time for self, one fourth for your partner/husband/wife, one fourth for children, one fourth for work?   That would include date nights with the husband/wife/partner, outings with either’s friends, and outings with the kids (school projects, sports, etc.).   If each has the other’s welfare at heart, the relationship may work.

Written by Rosa L. Griffin