Hoarding versus Collecting

Hoarding

Back in the 50s when I was born, you didn’t just throw things away.  You kept them for a time when you might need them again i.e., baby clothes, or you checked to see if a relative or friend needed it or donated it to charity, especially if you had a large family.

In my youth, I used to give away clothes I could no longer wear because I’d gained or lost weight.   I refused to wait until I was my perfect weight to wear those clothes again.  However, in the last few years my behavior has changed.   I’ve gotten way behind in keeping up the annual evaluation of the importance of things and documents to the point of hoarding.

In recent years I started keeping gifts others gave me as well as the things the gifts came in…pretty wrapping paper, pretty shopping bags, envelopes, pretty ribbons, etc. in case I can use them again.   Also, well-meaning friends and even strangers give you gifts you don’t want and I end up stockpiling things I don’t want or need.  And, I’m of the old school thinking in which it would be shameful to give away what’s been given to you as a gift.  I’ve recently donated perfectly good clothes that made me feel older than I am though.  

A move to a smaller home brought the issue to the front when Laura McCamy and her partner moved from a large house.   “I had a hard time getting rid of things, even if they no longer made sense in my life. My ‘poverty mentality’ was holding me back but getting rid of those items freed up mental and physical space.    I no longer have to look at the things I no longer need.   I no longer have to look at them and wonder what I’m going to do with them.   I define poverty mentality as living in unnecessary scarcity and fear.  It leads me to make poor decisions about the possessions I bring into my home.   Clothes that don’t fit…and furniture I don’t need.   Yes, perhaps the item is broken/ugly/doesn’t fit me/doesn’t fit in our house, but my poverty mentality tells me that I need to keep it because I will never be able to afford another.” 

For example, Laura lost a pair of eyeglasses in her clutter, and found them when moving after having expensively replaced them.   I did the same with a set of keys which turned up a few months later in a winter coat.   I also lost costume jewelry I had bought a couple of weeks before and found under some other clutter recently.   We had finally gotten rid of a closetful of plastic bags to a recycle bin only to find out that the local government banned the plastic ones for paper bags which are too flimsy to hold a gallon of milk.    I’ve seen some restaurant dinners fall out of paper bags. (See Laura McCamy in Sources below)

According to mayoclinic.org, “Hoarding disorder is a persistent difficulty discarding or parting with possessions because of a perceived need to save them.  The hoarder experiences distress at the thought of getting rid of the items.   Excessive accumulation of items, regardless of actual value, occurs.” 

According to Adaa.org, “The behavior usually has harmful effects—emotional, physical, social, financial, and even legal—for a hoarder and their family members.  The home lacks functional organization or living space.   The hoarder refuses to let others see the hoarding.   Hoarding may cause extreme debt.   The hoarder may be embarrassed or depressed after acquiring more”. 

“At the turn of the 20^th century, people rarely needed money because they grew food to sell or trade.  Food stockpiles had to be maintained especially in winter.  People experienced the poverty of the fear of such horrid times in the future—for example, a grandmother’s large collection of gifted silverware, plates and glasses from her wedding.  Hoarding has its roots in poverty in their youth and not having enough.  They saved stuff as well as money because of uncertainty.” (See Rubbish Please below in Sources)

While some other people think poverty has nothing to do with hoarding.   According to MedicineNet.com, “the reasons someone becomes a hoarder include altered brain connections, genetics, stress, OCD, environmental factors and altered levels of serotonin.   (See Medicinenet.com below in Sources)

Collecting

The other end of the spectrum is keeping things until they become valuable.   We’ve all heard of people who have kept toys, musical records, baseball cards, etc. until somebody wants to give them thousands or millions of dollars for it.  If you haven’t heard of this, check out PBS’s Antiques Road Show where people get value for things kept since the 1800’s or older.   It’s possible and even likely though that you won’t be around to get that kind of benefit…maybe a relative or the state will when you die.  But, by all means, keep things that are valuable but sometimes it’s hard to know what will become valuable in the future.   That also could be a reason to hoard.   Suppose some movie studio is looking for just that old refrigerator of yours or an old desk to use in a movie.   People have become millionaires by renting their vintage cars, etc., to Hollywood.

Oh yes, we can’t forget invisible digital money which can also make you a millionaire or a pauper.   For example, Elon Musk was pushing this heavily at first, but is surprisingly silent about it now.   If you are the one who ends up holding and not folding, you could end up in the poor house.   There are all kinds of gimmicks to make you rich, like flipping houses for example.   There was a man who went to one of those seminars and tried to flip 10 houses at a time and lost everything.   Having too many of anything is not necessarily the answer.

Now, I give gift cards instead of buying a gift, because unless you know the person well, you don’t really know what they would like.   And, I would really like the person to enjoy the gift and not be put in the same predicament of hoarding or re-gifting things they don’t want to keep to avoid hurting the giver’s feelings.

Even the Bible says, “God gives a man riches, wealth, and honor, so that he lacks nothing his heart desires; but God does not allow him to enjoy them.   Instead, a stranger will enjoy them.  This is futile and a grievous affliction.”  Ecclesiastes 6:2

Sources:

Laura McCamy, “Decluttering My Home of 17 years Showed Me My ‘Poverty Mentality’ Has Been Doing Me More Harm Than Good”, https://www.businessinsider.com/personal-finance/decluttering-my-home-poverty-mentality-harms-2021-10.

Rubbish Please, “Connecting Domestic Hoarding & Poverty”, February 1, 2016, London, https://www.rubbishplease.co.uk/blog/connecting-domestic-hoarding-poverty/

Medicinenet.com, Medical author Karthik Kumar MBBS, Medical reviewer Pallavi Suyog Uttekar, MD. “Why does a Person Become a Hoarder?”, March 5, 2021

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

Reading Expands Your Mind

Reading has been one of the important things in my life along with writing.   They both can teach and transport us safely to unknown places.  Some books whether fiction, nonfiction, poetry, children’s, etc. can add value to our lives. 

One of the eye-opening books of my life is John Steinbeck’s Grapes of Wrath published in 1939.   It alludes to White people treating other White people criminally during the Great Depression and Dust Bowl.   A mass migration began from Oklahoma and other states to California.   Along the way, we find why there developed a need for unions (who will pick a bushel of fruit for a $1, then .75, then .50, and before you know it your family has to pick several bushels at .25 per bushel.  Certainly not enough to feed a family after buying essentials in that same farmer’s store), tenant farmers who gave their lives to work land they would never own, and man’s inhumanity to mankind.  Even in the Bible, the Jews were instructed to leave some of their crop for the poor.

“Steinbeck’s book is historical fiction and was banned and burned by citizens although it was the best-selling book of 1939.  It won the National book award and the Pulitzer Prize for fiction and the Nobel Prize for Literature.   The most fervent attacks came from the Associated Farmers of California, and the book was challenged off and on into the 1990’s.”  (Wikipedia) Director John Ford made the book into the movie Grapes of Wrath in 1940.

Don’t be afraid to tackle a thick book.   The more you read the better you get.   Some books are now in audible form and can be borrowed from the library, my favorite place.

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

Review of book, The Art of Hand Dancing: That Saved My Life, by Lewis Neal and Joseph McCray (2020)

Lewis Neal’s book is thin, but quite a page-turner.  His book has a great cover of him dressed to perfection.   He is a Baltimorean who started hand dancing after serving in the military.

Hand dancing is just one category of the glamorous life of dancing.    He reveals so much I never knew about a career in dancing—what is involved in selecting contests, dance partners, costumes, etc. The contests took him all over the country.

During his career, Mr. Neal developed health problems and injuries.   He’s giving back by giving lectures on dancing, instructing dance classes, diabetes, and stroke because he had those experiences including his experiences with self-medicating which he does not recommend.   He gave us a much-detailed history of his experiences.

Hand dancing can be very provocative as well as great exercise.   I tried my hand at amateur hand dancing when I was younger and again after I was older but found it much too strenuous for me when done right.

I bought a copy of the Art of Hand Dancing through Amazon last year because I wanted to keep a copy for myself. 

Mr. Neal’s brother, Joseph McCray, is a certified addictions registered nurse and an author and speaker who specializes in help for drug addiction.

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

The Good Enough Life

Editor’s Note, “Wanting What You’ve Got”, p. 5.

“Acceptance is not acquiescence.  Acquiescence is quiet, desperate defeat.  Acceptance is the ability to distinguish between a want and a need, and to abjure [solemnly renounce] the former.

My husband wants a sienna-tiled villa hanging off an Amalfi cliff, with a yellow Porsche and a green Ferrari in the garage.  (I just want the house.)  But he concedes that he does not need it.  In fact, it would be a hassle to actually own it all.  Acceptance sheds the need.   Acquiescence is not wanting to let go of the need and doing so only reluctantly.

To pursue the good-enough life is to accept imperfection, not to acquiesce to terms that make one miserable.

From the Stoics to some of the best cognitive behavioral techniques of the 20^th and 21 centuries, we are reminded of the importance of acceptance.

If we choose our battles well, if we frame the immutable as trade-off rather than dead-end, if we find that one talent rather than rue the ones we will never acquire, then ‘good enough’ is indeed the best path forward.”   Twitter: @KajaPerina

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You Are Good Enough, p.26

“You were not at the top of the class, not the employee of the month, nor are you the ‘10’ you think your partner wants.   But you are probably pretty spectacular in some way, and definitely good enough in most areas of life.  If ever there were a time to stop beating yourself up for being human, it is now.”

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The Good-Enough Partner:  When Your Partner Is Not Your Romantic Ideal, by Aaron Ben-Zeév, Ph.D., p.45

“Having a good enough partner implies making some compromises that are contrary to romance.

Enough can be defined as ‘as much as necessary.’  In ideal love, enough is not enough, and you cannot get enough of your partner—the better she [or he] is, the more you want.   Nevertheless, some people are not fortunate enough to have even a ‘good-enough’ partner—they might have a ‘just-enough’ partner or a ‘barely enough’ partner.   Consequently, many people settle for a partner who is no good for them at all. 

This becomes more complex, as someone who initially seems barely good enough can end up being the most suitable partner.  A nicer-looking wealthier woman might not be good for you if her values and attitude do not jibe with yours.  In short, constant comparison is lethal. 

We do not expect Mr. Right to fulfill all our needs, as some of these needs are fulfilled by us, ourselves.   As in the story of the pot of gold buried in the garden, sometimes the treasure can be found right at home.”

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How to Polish Your Personality:  …Change starts with a critical assessment of your traits and whether they work well for you—or don’t.  By Grant H. Brenner, M.D., pp.46-53.

“Katherine was grappling with a problem of identity, a problem, that, I find, is much more common today than is generally recognized.  Who she really was had been suppressed for years, in part due to her sense of duty, in part to her desire to please others, and in part to worries about what would happen if she did not conform.  Yet she never completely forgot who she was.

When the circumstances of her life and marriage changed, the authentic needs and personality traits she had long downplayed took on new importance.  She now had more opportunities and the freedom to pursue them.   The awareness of mortality can be clarifying.  It drives a lot of our decisions.”

Source: Psychology Today, psychologytoday.com, March/April 2021.

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

Caregiving Part One: Family and Friends

“Caregiving is providing care for the physical and emotional needs of a family member or a friend at home.   It may involve assisting with meals, personal care, and transportation, helping with medical procedures and therapy”.   (Source:  www.benzieseniorsources.org)

“The most common type is the family caregiver who takes care of a family member without pay.   Other types include professional, independent, private, informal, and volunteer caregivers.”  (Source:  www.griswoldhomecare.com)

“Communication is key in the relationship between a caregiver and a patient.   It is important to both openly share feelings and remain empathetic to the situation.”  (Source:   Patient Empowerment Network, www.powerfulpatients.org)

Two interesting articles:

“Caregiver Tools:  10 Things to Add to Your Toolkit”, Medically reviewed by Judith Marcin, M.D., written by Ann Pietrangelo, updated on November 21, 2016.  Healthline.com.

1. Documentation
2. Medication management
3. Caregiver calendar
4. Home accommodations
5. Me time [the most neglected]
6. Mutual respect
7. Objectivity
8. Limitations
9. Balance and boundaries
10. Why the caregiver tools matter

“Very Much like Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, the Symptoms of Burnout can Begin Surfacing Months after a Traumatic Episode.”   “Caregiver Burnout”, by M. Ross Seligson, Ph.D., P.A., May 11, 2017, Today’s Caregiver magazine at Caregiver.com.  

I joined the two groups below after I no longer had outings and other distractions to help me bear with my relative’s depression and bipolar symptoms during this pandemic.   I’ve always been a caregiver for someone most of my life, but I never realized until now that was what I was doing.

1.  Coffee Tea and Me Caregiver Support Network on Facebook.  Shirl Parnell is the founder.  Located in Baltimore, MD, you can call Shirl at 443-538-1815 if you have questions about joining.

I found out about their existence from a member of an outdoor exercise class I was in that was discontinued due to cold weather.    I miss the hugs, handshakes, and physical closeness with others that helped to distract me away from depression myself.

Coffee Tea and Me Caregiver Support Network on Facebook has group prayer via conference call each Thursday morning at 6 a.m.  They also have guest speakers on the prayer line occasionally.   I found a little bit of God’s gold in the form of a conference call (425) 436-6397, access code 8363910 and you will be prompted to add an #. [If you have a Metro PCS or T-Mobile phone, you may have to use CTM’s back-up number 206 451 6063 before you use their regular number and access code]

2. Another caregiving support group that I joined is DBSA (Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance).   I signed up for the Family and Friends Group which is currently meeting on Zoom first and third Thursdays of the month at 7:15 p.m.   You can contact Louis M. Borowicz on email at louandvicki@verizon.net or call 410-467-4709 in the greater Baltimore area.  Website:  you can join the Persons w/Mood Disorders Group or the Family and Friends group (https://www.dbsalliance.org/helping-a-friend-or-family-member/dbsa-support -groups/).   Louis also recommended a book entitled YOU NEED HELP! by S. Conrad.

I can’t think about caregiving without thinking of the homeless.   One homeless man told me years ago that he was homeless because he refused to follow the rules of his brother’s house. 

I watched a documentary where a son was trying to help his estranged alcoholic father.   He got his father into Alcoholics Anonymous and even rented an apartment for him.   But his father continued drinking and nearly caused the apartment to catch fire.   So, the son decided that he would just help the father whenever he could and hoped that one day his father would stop drinking on his own.

Another problem that occurred in the 60’s was that President Ronald Reagan closed many state mental health facilities.   “1967 Reagan signs the Lanterman-Petris-Short Act and ends the practice of institutionalizing patients against their will, or for indefinite amounts of time.  This law is regarded by some as a ‘patient’s bill of rights’.   Sadly, the care outside state hospitals was inadequate.   The year after the law went into effect, a study shows the number of mentally ill people entering San Mateo’s criminal justice system doubles”.  (“Did the Emptying of Mental Hospitals Contribute to Homelessness?”, Jessica Placzek, December 8, 2016, kqed.org)

And, lastly, I don’t know if you have ever watched the television show, MOM, on CBS.  It has been on 7 seasons going on 8.   It is a drama, comedy, and romance.   The show is all about addictions:  alcohol and gambling mostly.  

Mother Bonnie (played by Allison Janney) is a past alcoholic, thief, con-woman, drug mule, etc. who only thought about herself and had a child Christy that she totally neglected (played by Anna Faris).   Now, both of them are in Alcoholics Anonymous with a group of female friends in the same boat.   

In season 6, episode 18, (“Soup Town and a Little Blonde Mongoose”) Bonnie’s daughter Christy is so sick that she cannot stand up (the second time I can remember Christy being this sick).   But this time Bonnie steps up to the plate and becomes, of all things, a CAREGIVER!   She avoids going to an Eagles concert to stay home with her daughter (of course, after making her boyfriend turn around and drive her all the way back home to help Christy).

Then, we get to see a side of Bonnie we have never seen.   Christy becomes her only priority—washing her clothes, getting her medicine, bathing her, helping her to get to the bathroom to vomit, etc. to the point that she gets totally worn out herself and in tears because Christy’s sickness lasts for days.  

Christy never got this kind of care as a child and the lack of care helped push her too into alcoholism, stripping, gambling addiction, and helping her mother with a life of crime.  In other words, survivors at other people’s expense.  Christy reverts back to being a child for a while from this special treatment.   While marketing, Bonnie even helps another mother who is stressed about a sick child and unfortunately leaves a recovering Christy alone in the market which is Bonnie’s usual modus operandi.   I love the show but sometimes I just want to smack Bonnie and Christy!  

Rebecca Ancheta-Blum is the director of MOM (many projects back to 1980 In Living Color), creator and writer Chuck Lorre (a man of many tv shows including Big Bang Theory, Two and a Half Men, Young Sheldon, etc. back to 1988.), co-creators Gemma Baker (also Two and a Half Men and movie The Replacements), and Eddie Gorodetsky (also Two and a Half Men, The Big Bang Theory, Bob Hearts Abishola, and many more back to 1980s.)

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

I Have Always Been a Hand Washer

All my life I have washed hands after questionable acts like sneezing, handling trash, using the toilet, washing my body, after shaking hands or touching strange surfaces, etc.   So, to do it more for a pandemic was not that great an inconvenience.

I was browsing through tv shows a couple of weeks ago, and I came across a doctor talking about wearing masks and washing hands.   (Sorry, I forgot to write down the show it was on.)  What stood out to me was the part on washing hands.   The doctor showed pictures of people with really abused hands from washing them.   She said that we forget to put lotion or moisturizer on our hands each time we wash them.   Even before the pandemic, I’ve seen some really rough hands on men as well as women.  We all need to keep our hands moisturized.   

No matter which kind of moisturizer we use, our hands and other body parts need to be moisturized after each time we wash them.   I have a problem with the skin on my hands beginning mid-November to March of each year.   My hands start looking and feeling like soft parchment paper if I don’t put on lotion several times each day.   I still have tiny scars and rough patches on my hands from skin that itched and cracked to the point of hurting in spite of my wearing gloves and applying lotions in winter.  

I and other people I know have used various brands of moisturizers like Avon’s Silicone Glove Protective Hand Cream, Gold Bond Extra Strength Medicated Lotion, Vaseline Intensive Care, Lubriderm Advanced Therapy Moisturizing Lotion, Palmer’s Cocoa Butter, Olay Body Quench Rapid Repair Lotion, Jergen’s Hydrating Lotion, etc., and love them.   But, a few years ago, a fellow coworker suggested Eucerin Intensive Repair Lotion and even gave me a small tube of it.   Some people have told me that Eucerin is too thick and gooey for them, but it’s just right for me. 

“In most cases, dry hands are caused by environmental conditions.  Weather, for example, can cause dry hands.  Frequent handwashing, exposure to chemicals, and certain medical conditions can dry out the skin on your hands, too.”  The article includes 10 remedies for dry hands. [Healthline.com.  “How to Heal and Prevent Dry Hands” by Chaunie Brusie, updated March 7, 2019]   

“A body lotion’s key benefit is to bring hydration back to your skin, but these days, more and more formulas are delivering added benefits.   From improving your skin’s elasticity to reducing the look of cellulite, there’s a perfect, multitasking body lotion out there for you”.   The article goes on to mention body rubs, body scrubs, body washes, body creams, etc.  [Birdie:  All Beauty, All the time—For Everyone; “We Found the 16 Best Body Lotions of 2020 (So You Don’t Have To)” by Syden Abrenica, updated November 3, 2020.  https://www.byrdie.com/best-body-lotions-4159935 ]

While I’m talking about hands, another article covers topics such as weak hand grip; tiny red bumps or blisters; numb or tingly hands; trigger finger; red scales or pus-filled bumps; the symptom: white, blue, or red fingers; hand tremors; purple finger nodules; hand pain, stiffness, and swelling; and long ring fingers.  [Health, “10 Things Your Hands Can Reveal About Your Health:  Hands Rely on a Symphony of Body Systems to Function Properly, so Doctors Often Look to These Appendages for Signs of Illness and Disease”, by Karen Pallarito, May 15, 2018.  https://www.health.com/condition/skin-conditions/hands-health]

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

Pass It On

Empathy

“When someone opens up and shares how they are feeling,

Just listen,

And be there—

You don’t have to have an answer or response.”   Alfred Adler

Empathy is something that is lacking in society today.   And in spite of someone’s political affiliation, we should be able to talk to them about something we have in common—other than politics.  I believe with all my heart that we can agree to disagree.

I remember a Bible verse which says “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.   The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.”  Proverbs 15:1-2, New International Version.

“The values we live by are worth more when we pass them on.”   Passiton.com

I had been seeing these wonderful commercials on television and wondered who produced them.  They are produced by the Foundation for a Better Life.  

“Their goal is to offer inspirational messages to people everywhere as a contribution toward promoting universal values, good role models and a better life.”   They have ads and commercials on tv, radio, billboards, videos, and more.   Check out their website at passiton.com.

I have been inspired and uplifted each time I see their commercials.   I have also subscribed to their emails. Pass it on!

Written by Rosa L. Griffin

Separation of Church and State

There was an interesting discussion on Twitter on June 24, 2020 about the separation of church and state.

Some one mentioned that the separation of church and state is not in the U.S. Constitution.   The idea was mentioned by Thomas Jefferson in a letter to the Virginia Danbury Baptist Church.   Many other Twitter contributors brought up what they considered to be negative uses of money in today’s crystal cathedrals, jets, and other signs of wealth that some megachurches have while other churches are poor and actually do what Jesus would do in helping the poor, etc.   

I had to look it up and Time magazine did an article on it which verified what was discussed on Twitter.  The First Amendment only prohibits government from creating a law regarding the establishment of a religion.

 Sources:    

https://time.com/5103677/church-state-separation-religious-freedom/

A popular current text, the King James Version shows 1 Timothy 6:10 to be: For the love of money is the root of all of evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.

en.wikipedia.org › wiki › Love_of_money

 12 ¶ And Jesus went into the temple of God, and cast out all them that sold and bought in the temple, and overthrew the tables of the moneychangers, and the seats of them that sold doves, 13 And said unto them, It is written, My ^ahouse shall be called the house of ^bprayer; but ye have made it a ^cden of thieves.   

Matthew 21 – The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

www.churchofjesuschrist.org › study › scriptures › matt

Also check www.irs.gov on Charities, Churches, and Politics.

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

Absolute Power Corrupts Absolutely (A Quote)

[Reprinted from March 8, 2018]

This was a best-known quote of the 19^th century British politician, historian, and moralist Lord John Emerich Edward Dalberg Acton 1834-1902, in a letter to Bishop Mandell Creighton in 1887.  But, he was borrowing from other speakers or writers who earlier said it differently. 

A king was the one with the most wealth and power.  This person thinks that all in their “kingdom” are pawns to do with as they please and they’ve done it so long that they believe their own hype.    They rule by threats, coercion, bargaining, murder, and compensating.   “…this option to impose on without any regard whatsoever for due process, becomes, in the hands of most, a license to harm, if not destroy the careers and lives of others.  Leadership incompetence” 1

“Absolute monarchies are those in which all power is given to, or as is more often the case, taken by, the monarch.   Examples were Roman emperors who thought they were gods and Napoleon Bonaparte who declared himself emperor”.2

There’s no room for absolute power in a democracy of checks and balances.  As seen recently, if you act only to build your own wealth, it will eventually come back to bite you in the behind.

As in the movie, The Man Who Would Be King (1975), based on Rudyard Kipling’s 1888 original story, two con men (Carnehan and Dravot, “British adventurers in British India”) sought their fortune in a foreign country, Afghanistan.   They were fellow freemasons to the journalist that they convinced to help them with their research.  They started out by helping people who were warring against each other and came up with satisfactory solutions.   But, then they went a few steps too far by becoming kings themselves over people whose customs they didn’t understand.  

Since the holy men who lorded over all the local tribes declared Dravot (Sean Connery) a descendant of Alexander the Great because of the freemason symbol he wore around his neck, he basically was thought to be a God until he told the holy men that he was going to marry a local girl and father children.  The local girl was instructed to bite Dravot on the face causing him to bleed.  Seeing Dravot bleed, the holy men knew he was not a God, and executed him.  

Two years later Carnehan (Michael Caine) returned to the journalist.   They had paid for their deceit.  Carnehan had been tortured, crippled, and released.   But, he showed the journalist (Christopher Plummer) the skeletal head of Dravot that was still wearing his golden crown.   Both actors did a wonderful job, especially Sean Connery explaining that he felt this Godship was his calling, and he intended to mend his ways.   Had they left with the spoils before they were outed, as Carnehan wanted to do, they would have been wealthy men.   But, Dravot believed his own hype. 3

And, now we have another example of absolute power in the case of the Saudi Arabian American journalist executed in the Saudi consulate in Turkey recently.    He was the same journalist who accompanied President 45’s business dealers to Saudi Arabia on past trips.  And, don’t forget the arms deal President 45 had already made with the Saudis.

Sources:

1.  Dr. Robert Aziz, Huffington Post, https://m.huffpost.com

2.  Absolute Power Corrupts Absolutely (A Quote), https://www.phrases.org.uk

3.  Wikipedia, Rudyard Kipling, The Phantom ‘Rickshaw and other Eerie Tales’

Submitted by Rosa L. Griffin

Attack of the Virus, Keeping Calm in Turbulent Times, The Why of Design, What You Want to Watch When You Want to, O yeah!

‘‘’Seismic’ Events and Loss Have Shaped US History: World Wars to 9/11— Catastrophe Has Long Driven Social Change”, by Marco della Cava, USA Today, Weekend, April 17-19, 2020, 1A.

“The virus is a modern-day terrorist attack on us all, so if I lost my father or friend to 9/11 or Oklahoma City or COVID-19, the loss is the same,” Watkins says.  “The sacrifice is the same.”

“Whenever we go through these national tragedies, people have to have a chance to rebuild their lives and move forward,” Watkins says. “So many are dying now, but we have to make the very best of the very worst.”

“We might take baby steps together, and maybe there will be mistakes on both sides of the political aisle.  But we should all be working together now for America.”

Kari Watkins, Executive Director, Oklahoma City National Memorial and Museum

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“Keeping Calm in Turbulent Times” by Margaret Foster, The Beacon in Focus for People over 50, Vol. 17, No. 5, p.1, 7.

“We’re all having anxiety about the future,” said Dr. Sally Winston, co-founder of the Anxiety and Stress Disorders Institute of Maryland, located on the Sheppard Pratt campus.

“Acknowledge your emotions.  What you resist, persists (Carl Jung).  Turning on the radio to drown out your thoughts is distraction which doesn’t work for long.  The other way is to say, while one part of my mind is worrying, I might as well listen to music.  It helps to acknowledge fear, anger, or confusion.”

“Stay in touch with others.  Pick up the phone and call a friend.   Learn some video chat programs that you can use on your smartphone, tablet, or computer.   Skype, Zoom, Google Hangouts, Facebook Messenger and WeChat are free.   Many churches are live-streaming services.”  [Someone did a program on letter writing and journaling is also helpful.   I keep a daily diary as a mental activity.]

“Go on a news diet.   Restrict your news-gathering time” especially if it stresses you out.   [I look at one news cast a day and spend no more than an hour on Twitter every other day.]

“Try for mindfulness (staying in the present moment).   Pause for self-reflection.  When you are worrying, there’s a ‘what if’ mindset in which you are in the future.  Try to do something that is sensory or active.”   [I listen to an opera called the Flower Duet-Lakmè by Lèo Delibes which is two sopranos singing to each other.  It is beautiful and restful.]

“Move your body.  Exercise has therapeutic and physical benefits.  Follow a free exercise video on YouTube.”  [I have attended a Tai Chi for Better Balance class at a senior center for nearly four years.   It is slow movement and you’ll find great company and make friends when things get back to normal.   I also have an exercise video called Aging Backwards 3 Essentrics by Miranda Esmonde-White which is slow stretching.  It also includes chair exercises (beginner-beginner) for those who have a hard time moving at all.]

“How to get help.    Extreme anxiety or depression?   Reach out to a mental health professional at the Anxiety and Stress Disorders Institute of Maryland 410-938-8449.   Or read Winston’s Psychology Today column, “Living with a Sticky Mind”, at bit.ly/worrytips.   In Baltimore City, call the city’s free Crisis, Information, and Referral Line at 410-433-5175.”

Check out the Beacon for the details of the article from the news stand or online at www.thebeaconnewspapers.com.   “How are you faring?” p.2 “The undeniable loss of experiences.  Enjoyment is seriously lessened.”   [The Beacon newspaper itself can also have a calming effect with the variety of topics it covers each issue.]

“These 25 Photos Show Why Things Were Designed the Way They Were”, by John Poe, Fetch Sport, April 15, 2020, online.

For example—the fifth pocket on jeans; ridges on the edges of corners; lines on outside of Solo Cups; cap holes on pens; loops on the grocery cart; notebook margins; dimples on golf balls; the arrow next to the gas gauge; the secret message in the exit sign; free fabric in new clothes; and so much more.

“Quaran-Stream”, by Leah Greenblatt, Entertainment Weekly, May 2020, pp.50-51.

“People—or most of us, at least—need people.”

“…pop culture is often what’s keeping us sane, from one uncertain day to the next.”

“So, will these methods of consumption become the new normal?”

“Robert Thompson, a professor of pop culture at Syracuse University, says ‘There were all these other ways that [content] used to be delivered to us, and now it’s one single means of delivery, and that is online, to whatever device you feel like looking at it with…  And once you’ve learned to stream stuff—what you want to watch, when you want to watch it—it’s hard to go back.’”

[I still have magazines delivered to me.  Streaming to a phone can be hard on the eyes.  A few of Barbara Streisand’s songs come to mind: “The Way We Were”, “People” (Needing People) and “What Are You Doing the Rest of Your Life?”.]

Written by Rosa L. Griffin